Why did we decide to resign? Many people have no desire to resign their memberships even after they stop believing and attending. I figured that would be the same with me or at least not for awhile. It started with a silly Christmas-time drop-off for my son from the Church. It had candy and a picture of Jesus and said something to the effect of him being the reason for the season. Really not a big deal in the grand scheme of things. But actually it is huge. They are using tactics (like candy, aka sweet things) to lure my child into their organization. Their Jesus is their reason for the season. But actually it's nature in all its glory. In any case, Jesus isn't the reason for the season for everybody.
It slowly dawned on me that this would continue as long as our names were on the rolls. They may give up eventually on my husband and me but I doubted they would give up so easily on my son. So my son became my main reason along with all the other reasons I left the Church....misogyny, homophobia, racism, oh and it's not true.
It's a freeing thing to be able to grow up and make a commitment to your own future. Mormonism has my past, it has friends, and family, but it doesn't have my future. My son may one day adopt Mormonism or another religion into his life, but if so he does it with his own mind. Allowing that freedom of thought to myself and to my son is the most awe-inspiring and most proud moment of my life.